Is it a collection of modelling tools you can use to achieve success? Is it advanced communication skills to take you to the next level in your communication with other people and with yourself?
Or, is it brainwashing for dummies? Is it pseudoscience psychobabble? Is it mind control and manipulation for beginners? Can it be used to get what you want regardless of others’ best interests?
Since I posted it back last May, ‘Is NLP manipulation, mind control or brainwashing?’ has consistently been my most viewed post.
It’s an engaging book if your interests lie in pursuing NLP in any sort of professional capacity. Or if you just want to understand why NLP can be seen as unprofessional and why the cliques and divisions in the NLP community have limited its acceptance by a wider audience.
To even the best of us it can be challenging to explain NLP to the uninitiated and especially to the skeptics.
An analogy Karen used in her book really struck a chord for me …
‘I see NLP as a bit like giving a child a cardboard box. If you watch a child playing with a cardboard box, their natural curiosity and imagination knows no boundaries. When we moved house, my son created a whole new world of possibilities. The packing boxes were transformed in to robots and houses and space ships and trucks and beds. They were chopped up and stuck together and coloured and decorated… they provided hours of endless fun and creativity and imagination and possibilities in the mind of a young child.’
Isn’t this exactly what NLP gives us? It stimulates and nurtures our curiosity. It opens our minds to new opportunities. It teaches us that flexibility leads to a much greater chance of success. It raises our awareness of different possibilities. It encourages us to take responsibility for our actions, our thoughts, our behaviour and ultimately our success.
‘One person looks a the cardboard box and sees a spaceship… and another sees a submarine or a robot. All are right because NLP, like a cardboard box, has at least 101 potential uses.’ …I’d say perhaps that should be an infinite number!
You may also like to read:
- Karen Moxom’s Blog
- The Building Blocks of NLP: The Presuppositions
- J’Adore Rapport
- It’s all about ecology…but not the garden variety!
- The Heart of Values (Values: Part I)
- My Mother Thought I’d Joined a Cult! (a.k.a. What the Heck is NLP Anyway: Part II)
- Thinking Through Another Persons Eyes
- Never Throw Away a Cardboard Box (christinefonseca.wordpress.com)
- NLP As a Strategic Business Tool (robertjrgraham.com)
- 5 Common Myths About NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) (small-businessadvice.com)
- Improving Your Concentration with NLP Practitioner Certification Course (onlinenlpcourse.wordpress.com)
- Turn a Cardboard Box into a Photo Light Box (lifehacker.com)