So I thought I’d sneak one last post in,just under the wire of the 7 days of Theme Week. Theme 10 Days or Theme 2 Weeks just doesn’t have the same ring about it – so I decided it had to get in today before the clock ticked past midnight.
If you haven’t read it yet then Anthony Robbins book Unlimited Power is a must if you want to learn about Personal Power. As he says the “…first step towards excellence is to find the beliefs that guide us towards the outcome we want.” Beliefs are convictions we trust as being true and each belief you have is centred around a value. The presuppositions of NLP are convenient beliefs that structure everything we do in NLP. A limiting belief is always preceded by a limiting decision – a limiting belief quite simply holds you back and allows you to believe you can’t do something. A person with limited beliefs is a limited person. As William Shakespeare wrote “Our doubts are traitors, And make us lose the good we oft might win, By fearing to attempt.”
To achieve success you need to not only follow the Principles for Success (know your outcome – take action – have sensory acuity – have behavioral flexibility – operate from a physiology and psychology of excellence), but you also need to have beliefs that support your outcome – the beliefs that get you where you want to go and provide the foundation for everything you do. Remember though beliefs are just that, a foundation – a starting point, you need to get off your butt and take action.
Anthony Robbins outlines what he calls the “7 Lies of Success” – the 7 top beliefs that have been modeled from extremely successful people. Why ‘lies’? Well his reasoning is we don’t know what the world truly is, so we can’t really know if they may or may not be true. But for me ‘lies’ is just too negative a word – how can I believe something labeled as a lie? So I’m going to term them the 7 beliefs for empowerment. And here we go:
#1 Everything happens for a reason and a purpose, and it serves us – you can choose to find value in everything you do or in nothing that you do. Think in terms of what you can get from every situation, think of that glass half full, see the possibilities in everything you do and that happens to you. Do you expect things to work out well or do you expect things to go badly? Have you noticed that whichever you expect usually happens?
#2 There is no such thing as failure. There are only results – this is the twin of the 11th NLP presupposition that states “ There is only FEEDBACK!: there is no failure, only feedback.” Feedback is an incredibly powerful tool to help you flex your behaviour and use another route to achieve the results you desire. So many people fear what they perceive as failure – fear of failure reinforces limiting beliefs and stops us taking the action we need to get our desired results. “There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.” – Paulo Coelho (The Alchemist)
A sales person may avoid asking the client the direct question of ‘do you want to buy my product or not’ as he fears he’ll get a ‘no’. But is that ‘no’ truly failure or is it useful feedback that he can benefit from to use his time on another customer more likely to say ‘yes’? “In this infinite Universe, the only impossibility is whatever you never attempt, and the only failure is when you decide to give up.” Serge Kahili King
#3 Whatever happens, take responsibility – who creates your world? Do you create your successes or are you at the mercy of external events and the actions of other people? Successful people believe they create their world, successes are theirs to achieve and if the results aren’t what they expect then the feedback they receive can be used to adapt their actions to achieve their goals. Taking responsibility is a measure of Personal Power – if you’re in control, you will succeed.
#4 It’s not necessary to understand everything to be able to use everything – successful people know what’s essential to know and don’t delve in to every tiny detail unless it’s critical to do so. Time, as I said in my last post, is finite so find out what you need to know, use it, and move on.
#5 People are your greatest resource – treat other with respect, dignity and appreciation. Build rapport to maximize your connection and communication with others. Treat them as individuals, but remember that no one person alone can match the collaborative actions of an effective team.
#6 Work is play – do you know anyone that has been successfully doing something they hate? Work should be an opportunity to stretch yourself and learn new things. See the possibility, develop your curiosity….
#7 There is no avoiding success without commitment – think about it….. There is no great success without great commitment.
So as my first Theme Week comes to a close I hope I’ve got you thinking about Personal Power and the amazing things you can achieve if you just allow yourself, believe in yourself and take action. “Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions.” Dalai Lama XIV
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- Your Beliefs Make You Happy? (socyberty.com)
- Countering Stress and Depression, by The Dalai Lama XIV (visaisahero.wordpress.com)